I hope you’re all doing as okay as you can be during this time. I am as okay as I can be; I am doing my best. Today, as I write this over Memorial Day weekend, my best simply looks like trying to be as good a friend to myself as I can possibly be in this moment. Last week was a difficult week for me, and despite the amazing weather and wonderful friends and all kinds of practices like Reiki, yoga and meditation, I would describe my current status as vacillating between struggling and feeling just okay. And you know what? That’s okay.
I had planned to share a write-up of the things I’ve been doing to keep myself healthy and sane in this time of great uncertainty and, for many of us, loneliness, but I decided that today, in order to be a good friend to myself, I’m going to say it’s okay that I don’t write that up. Today, in order to be a good friend to myself, I am giving myself permission to not do the thing, to not check another box off on my to-do list.
Instead, I’ll leave you with two thoughts.
First, I challenge you to ask yourself how you can be a good friend to yourself today. And then (and this is the hard part), actually do it.
Second, be okay with wherever you are; the goal isn’t to feel good all the time. In fact, getting better at feeling bad is how we build the muscle of resilience. Check out this article by my favorite blogger, Mark Manson for more on this idea, as well as some other great advice that just might help you tap into your personal reservoir of resilience.